Jessica began by explaining that the information about Ramses and Marissa did not come from rumors or social media posts, but from her own research. Jessica also emphasized a detail that many viewers may have overlooked: the relationship between Ramses and Marissa is not only about different perspectives on life, but also reflects disagreements in core values and personal desires.
On the show, Marissa clearly expressed that she did not want to be a stay-at-home mom, which is what Ramses might expect from a partner. Marissa, with her independent and ambitious personality, shared that if she gave up the job and career she had worked so hard to build, she would feel trapped in a life she did not want. According to Jessica, this shows that Marissa not only sets goals for herself but is also very determined to protect the achievements she has achieved.
When talking about Ramses, Jessica found that he seemed to be “open” and “accepting” the modern role of marriage. However, Jessica felt that Ramses’ acceptance was not sincere, but that he was just acting like it to impress Marissa. By trying to please Marissa without truly believing what he was saying, Ramses was not only lying to Marissa but also being dishonest to himself.
Next, Jessica dug deeper into Ramses’ past and his marriage to his ex-wife Anna. Ramses and Anna came from immigrant families from Venezuela and Peru, and both families came to the United States in 1996. This suggested that both Ramses and Anna grew up with similar values and experiences, which formed the basis for their first relationship.
Jessica also discovered that Ramses was a “youth leader” at his church, not a “youth pastor” as he listed on his LinkedIn. This raises questions about Ramses’s honesty in presenting himself. In Jessica’s eyes, Ramses seems to have a tendency to choose women with strong and determined personalities, like Anna and Marissa. Perhaps, he is attracted to their independence and success, but does not really share the same values or outlook on life.
Jessica also points out that differences in motivation and lifestyle may have been the reason for the breakup between Ramses and Anna. Ramses may have wanted a woman who would be a full-time homemaker, while both Anna and Marissa have their own ambitions and careers. This, according to Jessica, is a key point that makes a relationship difficult to last without understanding and respect for each other.
Jessica notes that the relationship between Ramses and Marissa may face similar obstacles, if Ramses is not honest about his desires and if he is not willing to adjust his views to match Marissa’s lifestyle.
Marissa and Ramses have profound differences in the way they live and the values they pursue, especially when it comes to work and career. Marissa, a driven and law-seeking individual, has to juggle a demanding academic schedule and stressful exams. She commutes three hours a day to school, dealing with the stress of exams and essays while also preparing for her wedding. She also has to deal with rheumatoid arthritis, an autoimmune disease that greatly affects her physical health.
Ramses, on the other hand, works comfortably from home and does not really share the wedding responsibilities with her. He seems to lack empathy and understanding for the hardships Marissa goes through. Instead of supporting and sharing the burden, Ramses does not help much and only cares about his own needs, not even paying attention to Marissa’s health.
In addition, Ramses is not used to the pressure of a demanding job like Marissa’s, which can easily lead to conflicts. Despite knowing about her military past, he is still ignorant and underestimates her sacrifice. This leads to a huge gap between them as they cannot reconcile their opposing lifestyles and careers.
Ultimately, Ramses seems not to be ready for a relationship, and this is shown by his lack of initiative in his commitments. Their relationship becomes more strained and complicated when the support from Ramses’ family and friends is also lacking, not creating conditions for them to develop a lasting relationship.
